Don't Think, Just Do

Body language is the make or break aspect of attracting women in most cases.  Body language can be your best friend, or your worst enemy.  Our main goal will be to portray confidence and sexual interest while analyzing the body language of the woman that you are attempting to seduce.

To display that we are attracted this is what we’re going to do:

1. Eye Contact – A confident person is constantly making eye contact.  Don’t forget to blink though.  To avoid having glassy eyes (appearing bored) focus on a different eye every now and then or take a little trip around her face and notice some facial features.  Try not to look at her lips or chin too much, we don’t want her to think that you are looking at her cleavage.
2. Think Happy Thoughts – The best way to portray something through body language is to think it first.  If you think what you want to portray, then your body will start displaying it.  So let’s think happy thoughts like “I’m attracted to you and I’m the best man you’ll ever meet.”
3. Match – Try to match her posture, but don’t be extremely obvious.  If she crosses her legs, cross yours, but in a little bit of a different way.  If she takes a sip of wine, you grab a sip.  You’ll start to notice that she matches up with you soon; you’re on your way.
4. Avoid Lies – She will see right through you and you will ruin any attraction built up.
5. Sit up Straight – Sit up straight, but don’t lean in.  If you lean in you will look needy and we all know that women do not like needy men.
6. Calm – Try to stay calm, no matter what the situation is.  This will show her that you are in control and confident in whatever it is that comes your way.
7. Confident – Be Completely Confident
8. Touching – If she touches you, then I want you to count in your head how long she touches you for.  Then, as soon as the next opportunity arises, touch her for a slightly less time period than she touched you.  This will say, “I see you’re interested, I’m also interested, but not as much as you are in me.”  Obviously, this is subconscious, but it will display your confidence and value, that will have her chasing you now.  Be careful not to be more sexual than she was, otherwise you run the risk of coming off as a creep or desperate.  You don’t want to touch her in the exact manner she touched you either, that could seem calculated.  If she touches your arm while laughing, maybe put your hand on her shoulder for a second less while making a little joke, it’s really a tough judgment call.  Try to be aware of her expression when you touch her, you will get a feeling of what is right and wrong in time.

Don’t get discouraged if a girl is giving you negative body language.  This usually just means that they need to be opened up.  To do this, you need to show them you have good intentions and can be trusted.  Here are some of the signs we are looking for:

1. Eye Contact – The more the better.  If she is in and out, don’t fret, she probably just is probably just not used to the confidence that you have and is not comfortable with an eye to eye conversation.
2. Head Position – Looking down is not necessarily a bad thing, but we want to see a progression upwards.  If she is all over the place, she is either not interested or has some severe ADD.
3. Smiles – The more smiles the better.
4. Blushing – If she blushes, she is most likely feeling vulnerable.  The fact that she cares about what you think of her is a good sign.
5. Open Palms – If you can see palm, it is a good thing
6. Facing You – Squared up face to face, hip to hip
7. Leaning In – Try to be aware of the angle she is at toward you, the closer the better.
8. Dilated Pupils – This one is famous, but honestly, it is tough for me to justify making any decisions on it because it can be changed so easily by environmental variables.  Scientifically, her pupils will dilate if she becomes more attracted to you.
9. Touching You – Same as I said before, make sure to follow the rules and do not overdue it!
10. Touching Herself – That sounds naughty… But I’m talking about brushing her hair back, playing with a necklace (resist the urge to look!), stroking anything, ect.  Be aware of these types of movements, they are usually positive.  Things like tapping or drumming are not really too positive though.  It is mostly a common sense call.  The key is to just constantly be aware of it.

She will be very focused on your body language, and you will be very focused on her.  As I stated above, body language is a key component to attracting women, but do not forget that it is not the only.  Being confident and having a compelling conversation are two other major factors is this fun little game we call flirting.  Be sure to get plenty of practice on this, and have fun!