It is almost always true that behind every great man is a great woman. I come from a successful family. My father successfully built up his own business from nothing and gained financial success and respect among his colleagues and piers. I give him massive amounts of credit for this, but it would not have been possible without a truly great woman on his team. My mother was the glue that held everything together. We were faced with poverty and numerous challenges that my mother would take care of while my father was away. Now they both have fancy cars, a beautiful home, a second home on an island, a very fast boat, ownership of a valuable business, investments into numerous promising businesses, and two successful sons whom they paid in full to be educated at fine institutions. This is no light task in my mind. I feel I am truly blessed to be in a position where I will never feel the poverty that my parents once did, even while I was in college. But enough about that, let’s talk about why you need a great woman at your side, what qualities to look for, where to find her, and how to be with her.
The reason you need a great woman at your side is easy to see. She will contribute instead of drain. If you have a woman that has no particular skill set, then you are going to have to, not only handle everything yourself, but, take care of her as well. This can be a drain on you and lead to unhappiness, so let’s avoid this. Also, not to say a run of the mill woman won’t have fun doing nothing all day, but it is more likely that an exceptional woman will have a particular skill set that is beneficial to your partnership and she enjoys. If she is doing something she enjoys, then she is going to be happy, you are going to be happy, sounds good. I’m sure you can see that the possibilities for having a good partner is essential to your happiness and success, so I’ll move on.
Here are some qualities that we’re looking for (not necessarily in order, you have to figure out which traits will compliment yours, and when I say compliment, I mean make up for):
- Organized
- Educated (well, good grades go a long way)
- Street Smart
- People Person (Well Liked)
- Good Communicator
- Positive (This one is more important than most think. Going home to a negative person everyday would suck and have you thinking negatively)
- Flexible (Not literally, unless you’re into that)
- Honest
- Trustworthy (obviously this is extremely important)
- Confident
- Open-Minded
- Intuition
- Generous
- In Love with You (Hate to drop the “L” word, but if you honestly expect her to be on your team and persevere through all the crap you both will have to go through, there needs to be some love)
Of course, there are plenty of other characteristics that we could put down here, but I think you get the idea. You are pretty much looking for a Little Goody Two-Shoes that has all the characteristics that, hopefully, balance out your shortcomings. If you are bad at paying bills, then you probably want a teammate that is good at paperwork and is organized. If you are not comfortable in social situations and do not like to go out, then an outgoing extravert is probably in order for you. There are some traits that you will need no matter what. I think they are easy to pick out, like honesty, education, street smarts ect. ect.
Where do we find a girl like this? Church (only if you are religious!!!), bookstores, high class sporting events (tennis, equestrian, golf, ect.), college (only if you are still in college… and not at a party, check the library or get in some high level classes and look around), she’ll be the one who is in control at a party that is full of drunks, coffee shops, and the business world (be careful not to overstep your bounds here and try not to every work at the same place as your partner). I don’t mean to say that if you go to these places every single woman you meet will be great, obviously, you have to do a little sifting for yourself.
Getting with this type of woman is no different than any other women. You have to show that you are of great value and that you are wanted by women and well liked by men. You need to show that you can hold a great conversation and that you are completely confident. The part that differs from most women here is how to keep them. Unlike most women, that you are mostly physically attracted to, this woman is not only physically attractive, but mentally attractive. She will not be interested in the games that lesser women partake in. You will need genuine flattery, but do not be clingy. Show her that you care, but in a 3rd party way. Send flowers to her work so all her co-workers can see. She’ll love the jealousy that all her co-workers will feel with that one. You need to make her feel important and you need to do everything you can to make sure she is having fun with you no matter what. Go out of your way to see her, it will show her that you really are sincere and not just trying to pick her up. This type of woman is not looking for a fling (in most cases), and you shouldn’t be either if you’ve found one, so don’t portray it that way!
Don’t think you are going to get a great woman if you are not a great man yourself. They will see right though you and move on to the next man waiting in their long line. Don’t look at this negatively, look at it as just yet another reason why you should be constantly improving yourself.
This is a tough topic, but I think it can honestly make or break your entire life. Finding a compatible and great woman is extremely important to your success and happiness in the long run. So, once you are done philandering about, look high and low for one of these women. If you find one, do everything you can to get her, and keep her. If you are having troubles with getting or keeping one that you’ve found, contact me, I can help, I grew up with one (my mother) and now I have one of my own. Have fun!
