I have recently been interested in the whole notion of “class.” We hear about it all the time and it is obviously a good trait to have. This is where I will differ from a lot of other people who give tips out about women. I am an advocate of being classy in front of women. I don’t know where it was lost down the line, but swearing or being rude to a woman is out of the question. Sure, you can use things like negs and not honor her every request to show her you are in charge, but you have to do it in a respectable way. You can let loose and swear in front of your friends, but let’s keep it a class act for when you are out meeting new people, especially women. For women, being classy is very difficult, especially when it comes to attire and being seduced. For men, being classy is most difficult when it comes to seducing women. Before we get into the details of class in these senses, let’s get a sense of what class entails.
- Hygienic – Keep yourself tidy, trimmed nails, clean ears, neat hair (including facial), neat cloths (preferably stylish, grab some Ralph Lauren or something), shine your shoes if you can, ect. ect.
- Confident – Read this
- Under Control – Keep your cool in all situations, don’t let things shake you up. If you spill your drink, you are not going to freak out. If someone tries to start a fight, you are not going to accept and you are going to try and talk the problem out, calm and cool. Anything that could happen, you have to be calm and cool, under control at all times.
- Choose Your Friends Wisely – Crazy friends = not classy. Slutty friends = not classy. I’m not saying you can’t be friends with those types of people if you indeed are, I’m just saying that you might not want to go out with them on all occasions.
- Be Polite – Be polite, especially to whoever owns the place you’re in or works at the place you’re in (this means tipping generously as well). But remember, this doesn’t mean you are going to be a push over, don’t put yourself in a position of harm for others. Weigh the pros and cons of your services to others, make business decisions.
- Keep Up to Date – Make sure to be reading the news papers and have a good sense of what is going on around you
- Don’t Talk Politics or Religion – This is important, they are conversation no-nos. If it is brought up, do your best to steer the conversation in another direction without being rude.
- Be a Conversationalist – Last but undoubtedly not least, this is one of the keys to being a classy person
- Knowledge? – Some may argue that you need knowledge of fine wine, sailing, and cigars as well. I’m not sure if I completely agree with that. I believe if you follow the above steps, and you act as a true gentleman then you will have class. I have seen men who are dirt poor have more class than a rich prick. Some might say that the poor man has no class, you might even think that, and I am fine to agree to disagree on that topic.
Now that we have some basic ground rules we can take a look at what this has to do with dating. How are you supposed to seduce a woman while you are being this complete gentleman? Subtly, that’s how. A gentleman can be overly nice to her friend, making her a little jealous. A gentleman can position himself away from her a little bit, showing disinterest. Then, when she starts showing some interest we can do things like showing it with our eye contact. Put yourself in her shoes, this classy man has the confidence to be staring right back at her looking her in the eye (letting the woman break eye contact first, because that is what confident men do) while engaged in conversation. You know she is going to be attracted to that. Class is just one more notch on the key of knowledge that will unlock the door for you.
Good luck with this, and as always, have fun!
