No matter where you go for women advice, there has to be a section on fear of rejection. It is, in my point of view, one of the biggest parts of being successful with women. Fear of rejection is what makes you not want to go talk to that beautiful girl over on the other side of the bar. For some reason, which is embedded into our nature, we seek the acceptance of good looking people. Let’s see if we can’t find a short circuit for this little problem.
What needs to be done is that you need to grow a pair of balls and stop caring about what women say to you or think about you. The only way to do this is to practice. You have to be comfortable going up to any women and saying anything anywhere. You should be as comfortable going up to some smoking hot blonde as going over to your best friend.
I did a little social experiment where I walked around the mall with my friends and they would point out a girl and tell me what to say to her. Naturally, they would pick drop dead women, and have me say the most ridiculous, embarrassing or downright wrong things to these girls. I didn’t realize that even I would have trouble with this. It’s harder than it looks! So I stuck to it, after awhile, I really did have the confidence to go up to any women and say anything without wanting to get the hell out of there as quickly as possible. Not only did this boost my confidence with women tremendously, it made it so easy to approach anyone when it came to just everyday conversation as well. I’m not saying you have to do anything this ridiculous, I did fine with women before this, this is just the extreme example I tried when I was starting to get interested in this stuff.
Hopefully you can see where I’m coming from with this and can explore it yourself. Let me know how you do with it, I’m always interested in seeing results, whether they are good or bad.
I’ve written more on this topic here
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