So you’ve met someone you really like and you want to attract her. You think you guys would make a great couple and already think you’re in love with this girl. Ok, let’s see what we can do here.
Study. This might sound weird to a lot of people, but study what she is interested in. Yes, I also realize it goes against the “winners don’t think they just do” attitude, but don’t fret, there is an element of that too, keep reading.
Some of you might have trouble talking to women in general; you are going to be 10x as nervous when you try to strike up an average conversation with this one. Find out what she likes and learn about it. This will give you safe topics that she will enjoy talking about and it will give you a little more confidence going into this conversation.
When I was younger, I did this without even really realizing too much. If I was introduced to a woman by a friend or someone, I might talk to the friend about her and gain little insights, just casually. Then if one of those topics were to be brought up by someone else in a different setting, wherever it may be, I would become interested in the conversation and try to get as much out of it as possible. So now, talking to you guys, let’s see if we can just cut to the chase right away.
Think about this as a game, where she is the prize and the opponent at the same time. You want to come into this game prepared, guns loaded. I want you to know what you’re talking about so you don’t look like a fool, but still ask questions. Just because you know your stuff, you don’t want to come in throwing plain facts at her left and right, we need questions here. Not just any questions, “feely” questions. Try to find out how she feels about certain things, and then maybe contrast your opinion. Try to agree with her, and tell her why using some of that knowledge you now have.
Once you’ve got yourself going with this, you will probably just tangent off into different topics and be on your way. If this is something you’re worried about, then you have to study extra hard and have a lot of insight into what she wants to talk about and hopefully ramble on about a little bit.
Get to her. Find a way to get to see her often. The most important thing is to talk to her, it doesn’t even matter too much what it is your saying, and as long as you keep the conversation in a topic she is interested in. You have to get some face to face time if you hope to have a relationship with her in the future.
Do it. There are so many guys that miss out on a great girl because they don’t do anything about it. Show her you’re attracted. Ask her out on a date. Do something! You have to let her know you are interested and you have to do it fast. If you want to date her, don’t let her start to think of you as a friend. If you let her think of you as a friend, she will want to keep you as a friend, and you will be a very unhappy man. Winners don’t think, they just do.
