Don't Think, Just Do

A “neg” is when you purposely put a woman in her place by saying or doing something that somewhat insults her in a way.  This can be like comparing her to someone who is clearly unattractive, or ignoring her.  These “negs” are used to sort of put her at a lower social status while raising you up to a higher social status by showing that you are in control here.  But are “negs” all they are hyped up to be?  It really depends on how you use it.

The first problem is that many people who focus on “negs” often take them too far.  So pretty much, they end up just looking like a major asshole and destroy any chance of attraction with the girl they were going after.  If you truly insult a women, they will hate you, and they will hold a grudge against you and you will get nowhere with them, trust me, I’ve been there, done that.

The second problem is that people neg on weird subjects.  They sometimes just come out because you want to neg a girl and you get a response like “oh, ok.”  That right there will make you look and feel like a complete fool.  I’ll discuss later how you can avoid this by properly negging.

Despite the common problems, negs can work.  It shows the girl, in a way, that you are better than them, which makes them seek your approval.  Whether you choose to use negs or not is up to you.  I only choose to use them in certain circumstances because I believe them to be crude and unnecessary.  It is almost like using bad business practices; it is effective, but not the most honorable thing in the world.

The cases I do use them in are when the woman is really getting after you.  When I come across women that are constantly asking me to do everything for them and wining I use negging quite a bit to show them that I’m not going to put up with their shit, because honestly, I’m not going to put up with any woman’s shit.  My favorite neg in this instance is just to ignore them, and they’ll know you’re ignoring them.  They might keep insisting you get them a drink or whatever, but I just keep on ignoring them because I won’t tolerate anyone ordering me around like that.  After awhile they will stop, some are more persistent than others.  They most likely will not approach you about it after either.  They know they were in the wrong, so it would just be stupid for them to.

As for negging when you want to just put a woman in her place, the best way to go is one that could be interpreted either way, but you can’t reveal which it is.  This will have immediately hinder her self-confidence and have her guessing at what you meant and is actually very powerful so buyer beware, you can mess girls up with this stuff.  Just comment on her dress, is it new?  Respond with a sort of head nod and pursed lips that doesn’t really say yes or no.  That can be applied to any appearance based topic.  The same reaction can be used when she reveals a life choice.  You smoke? Neg. You drink? Neg. You majored in what? Neg.  You do what for a living? Neg.  You normally want to neg either appearance or status, women are extremely vulnerable on both accounts.  Again, be careful, you really can ruin people with this stuff, I am sort of second guessing myself on writing this article.

I think of one of Dane Cook’s jokes where he says that women know exactly what to say to leave a time bomb in men during an argument.  She says this little phrase that doesn’t seem to mean anything but then after the fight you can’t stop thinking about it until you explode.  I think the example he gives is that she says something like “you’re stupid just like your father” and he ends up exploding saying something like “my father was a brilliant man! You don’t even know! You don’t even know (screaming at this point)!!!”  It’s a very funny routine; check it out if you get the chance.  But, this is exactly what you’re trying to do, plant a little something in there to keep her thinking about, just try to control the explosion.