So you’ve found a girl you are attracted to, you’ve started talking to her and you can tell she is into you because you have been paying attention to the signals her body is giving off and she is giving off some warm body language toward you. This is where you really have to buckle down and put yourself on the line. A lot of you are going to have trouble with this because you will have the dreaded Fear of Rejections.
The key here is to not hesitate. Hesitation shows weakness and you need to be strong and confident, so let’s stay clear of the hesitation bit. To make yourself a little less hesitant you can picture success in your head. Picture how this will go down, and then make it happen. This is a technique that is used by a lot of top athletes. Also, you can think of all the great things that can come from you doing this and think of how much you will regret it if you don’t do it. Try not to think about the negative, if you find yourself thinking about the negatives, immediately switch your thinking to the positive and the fact that you will regret it if you don’t do this.
The closing of the deal we are looking for here is the kiss. The first thing you need to get is the setting. It doesn’t have to be something extremely crazy romantic, but let’s try to make it something nice. The thing about the setting is, that it will probably determine the mood she is in, which is pretty important. You don’t want to try going in for the kiss when she is having a bad day. So just be aware of that, just one more thing that you can get going for you here.
Light conversation. Try to keep the conversation either light, or get the conversation to a point where you are joking, smiling, laughing, touching, or all of the above. Then, when there is a slight pause, it might be a slightly awkward pause, a smile slowly come across and fill your face. Think in your head “I want to kiss you” and your eyes will tell her. Since you have been looking into her eyes while talking to her, keep looking in her eyes, but glance down at her lips, then back up to her eyes. Do this again if you feel necessary. Then start to slowly move in for a kiss. If you see her moving in to, you’re golden, go for it. If you see her pulling away, then it’s a no go. If she has pulled away, try not to jerk your head back. Try to just give a little laugh, it’s going to be awkward, embrace it, it’s called sexual tension. Don’t think she has denied you; she is just not ready to kiss you. Either way, you have showed her how you feel, if she has pulled back, wait a while, maybe a day or two, before you try again.
Have fun with this! You will feel awkward, this is sexual tension. Learn to enjoy it. Personally, I think it is one of the greatest feelings in the world. You should look forward to feeling this tension every time, your heart may pound. It is like riding a roller coaster sometimes. So be sure that you have fun with this, there should not be a worry on your mind.
Let me know how you guys do with this!
