Don't Think, Just Do

The key in becoming less shy is the same as anything… practice.  Nothing comes without practice.  “How come I have to practice when other people were just naturally outgoing?” They did practice.  Every time you were being shy, they were socializing and socializing is the only way you are going to be comfortable socializing.  Whether you are shy with men and women, or just women, you have to practice what you are bad at.

This will be uncomfortable at first!  But, you have to get out there.  Talk to everyone.  Say the most random thing that comes to your mind.  Embarrass yourself!  Embarrass yourself until you cannot be embarrassed anymore.  Maybe that is what puts me ahead of other people, I embarrassed myself in so many ways when I was younger, I guess I am immune to it now.  I’m almost never uncomfortable.

There are some occasions that will be out of the ordinary.  Maybe an ex-girlfriend or a girl that shut you down once upon a time.  I’m going to say this, but you have to think about this the right way or you will seem like a sexist ass.

You have to realize that they are not as good as you.

You have to realize you are exceptional, you know it.  When you have this attitude, you will suddenly not care what other people think of you.  Now, this has exceptions because you should definitely care what your good friends think of you.  Hopefully they will give their honest opinion of you and that will help you better yourself, but more on that later.  The bottom line is that you are the shit.  If you don’t believe that, then you better start finding a way to prove it to yourself, do something crazy, pickup an extreme sport, something out of the ordinary.  Join some groups, get out there.  Go places with your friends and just start talking to people (go places your interested in so the conversation will be interesting and fluid for you).  If you don’t have friends, go find some using the same technique.