This was always my goal, to find a good girl. You can define a good girl however you like, but my definition of a good girlfriend is a smart, confident, beautiful, interesting, from a strong family, from an educated family, financially independent, financially knowledgeable, a hard worker, kind, generous, social, an extrovert, patient, a good conversationalist, conservative in lifestyle (does not drink a lot and does not smoke) and a well rounded woman in general. My ideal catch is well educated, preferably at private schools like myself. I prefer my ideal woman to have diverse interests such as horseback riding or jumping, piano, dancing, tennis, ect. As you can see, I like good girls. You may like a different type of girl than me, but let’s look at how I go about finding my type of woman and you can model it for your own ideals. Obviously, you are not always going to find an exact match, but it is a good idea to know what you are looking for if you could actually choose your ideal woman.
First off, we need to find out where this type of girl is hiding before we can do anything. For me, this type of girl was easiest to find through my friends, but since that is not always the case, we’ll see if we can find her a different way. We have to think of where all these traits converge for the most part, what they have in common. For what I have listed above, the first things that come to mind are family and money. Her parents will probably start her off in these types of hobbies when she is young and it is not very cheap to do so, so we’re looking for a strong family with money. Ok, where do we go to find a strong family with money? If you’re in high school, I would suggest getting good grades so you can go to a fine institution, which would be the easiest possibility by far. But for most of us, we’re going to have to start off by going toward the city. I would think that this type of woman would not be at the bar scene, but some ideas that pop into my head are the library, museums and theater shows. Now I’ve listed these in particular because they are things that I enjoy to do. There is no point in looking for a woman somewhere that you never want to go back to again. It’s obvious she is there because she enjoys being there, so it would be stupid for your first experience together be somewhere you do not enjoy. Plus, it leaves the door open for you looking like a fool when she asks you a question about the show and you don’t even know what it’s about.
What are we looking for when we get there? Well, I’m going to be looking for a well kept woman most of all. When I see a well kept woman, I will move in a little closer to hear her converse with whomever she is talking to, this will give me a chance to see if she has good manners. If she has these two characteristics I would have a good feeling that this woman has at least half of the qualities I am looking for. Please keep in mind, you are rarely going to find someone who is completely perfect and if you do she probably already has a boyfriend. At this point I would be completely comfortable approaching this woman for a couple reasons. First off, I am interested in her and want to find out more about her to see if she is the woman for me. Second, because she has already shown class so I would expect a polite rejection when I show her interest (a polite rejection that should be politely accepted). Note: Rejections from a woman like this will be much more subtle, so keep an eye out. If she excuses herself to the bathroom while in conversation, there is a good chance she is politely declining you, move on.
Now that we know where and what to look for, let’s figure out how to act. In all cases, women are looking for confident men. Confidence is by far the most important trait when it comes to attracting women, we all know that by now. But now we are trying to attract a particular type of girl, so there are going to be a couple other qualities you might have to adopt to fit her needs. Again, you can apply this differently to the type of girl you are trying to attract, but we’ll stick with my example for now. As a general rule of thumb, you want to mirror her actions somewhat (unless shy). If she acts conservatively, then do the same. In our case here, she most likely will act conservatively. Now, let’s think what kind of man this woman would want. She would want a man that she can show to her parents and parent’s friends and be proud of. In other words, she will be looking for a respectable, class act, so let’s not be walking around with messy hair and scuffed shoes. We’ll need to be very well kept for this one. We also better be damn good conversationalists (which can be achieved though following The Conversation Model, because you know the older rich folk love a good suck up and you know that without the blessing of this woman’s father, you will get absolutely nowhere. Meeting her parents is a whole different topic in its self, I’ll be sure to write more in depth about it later but basically you want to show them that you are sincere without overdoing it; otherwise they will think you are faking it.
Having a good knowledge of the event you are at is going to get you very far here. Say you met this girl at the theater. You should know what the show is about, who the key actors are and generally know what’s up in the realm of theater. This is important for a couple reasons. First, it is the ideal topic of your conversation to be started on. Second, if you don’t seem genuinely interested in theater a red flag may go off in her head and you may be caught or just look like a fool in general. From here you can try to pick up on those little hints she gives off to direct your conversation like I talked about in The Conversation Model. As the last point on how to act with this girl, I want to impress the importance of eye contact and sexuality. Don’t let her think that you just want to talk, you don’t want to start off down the wrong path and end up a “friend.” Keep those eyes right on hers and think how much you want her so your eyes and body language will tell the story for you. Note: beware of boyfriends; if they see this from across the room, you better believe they will storm right over so you might want to check if she is single.
Now that we have found our girl, started talking to her and are on our way to attracting her, let’s think about how we are going to close this deal. Is this the type of girl that would go home with me on the first meeting (in most cases no)? You really have to try and judge this by the conversation, if she is giving heavy sexual signals back to you then you might want to try it. Otherwise, I feel that if you find something she likes to do and you ask her to accompany you to do this with her. For example a different show or horseback riding, whatever she mentions in conversation. Remember that you are interested in finding out about her, so I’m sure she will be telling you some of her interests. If she accepts and agrees to do that something with you on a later date, then you can ask for her phone number and call her later about it. This will always be pretty acceptable and there is almost no way for you to offend her by going about it this way. This is my preferred method; I would say I use it almost every time I meet a woman I am interested in. As for the actual phone call, that will be my very next post.
Good luck with this guys, let me know how it goes. As always, have fun!
