Jul 30
You’ve got her number! Now you need to know how to talk to her on the phone and set up a date on the phone, no problem. If you were comfortable talking with her face to face, then a phone call is even easier, so don’t even fret just follow these few simple rules.
- Pick out three potential dates and times and venues for your date – I’ll explain why in a minute, just make sure they are a few days off and at reasonable times.
- Hum low tones before you call – Humming will relax your vocal chords and make your voice smoother and lower naturally
- Be to the point and be specific – don’t beat around the bush, you are here to ask her out, so do so… “Hey, this is Joey, we met the other day at the Starbucks. I’m calling to see if you wanted to go see that movie we were talking about. I’m free <specific date and time>” This does a few things. First, it doesn’t give her time to think about this and you will get her true gut reaction towards you. Second being to the point and specific about the date and time shows her that you are busy and your time is worth a lot. If she says she is busy for the specific date and time you offered pretend to be looking at your calendar and then offer the second date you have picked out. If she says she is busy to three different times then politely say either “Ok, I guess you are not that interested, thank you” or “Ok, I guess I’ll see you around then maybe.” If she honestly is busy, then she will stop you and try to set up another date.
- Don’t say “umm” – saying things like “ahhhh” or “ummmm” whether in face to face conversation or on the phone is a big no-no so just take my word and stay clear, even while you are pretending to pick another time out of your calendar.
- Get off the phone right after – after you have confirmed, just get out of there with a simple “ok, great I’ll see you then, goodnight” or something to that effect.
- Don’t get to excited about this – keep living your life and don’t think about this date over and over. It’s just a date, you are going to meet her to see if she is your type of girl that is all. Otherwise you could psyche yourself out.
Like I said, no problem. Phone calls are easy! You are going in with a purpose and you do it and get out, simple as that. Good luck with this guys, let me know how you do and as always, have fun!
