Just a quick little tip that I was talking with a friend about last night: The little details that you can get out of casual conversation with your girl (and remember them) are like little gems. If she drops a hint about a stuffed monkey, a particular thing she was going to buy, or a show that she always loved to watch when she was a kid, try your hardest to remember it. Don’t throw them back at her as soon as you hear them though, save them up! Now, when she is down (sick or something is bothering her), you could find that old show online and have the DVDs ready to give to her or have that stuffed monkey (it might sound corny to some of you out there) and give it to her. These “little things” will cheer her up tremendously, which is good for both of you. Also, it will make her even more attracted to your thoughtfulness. It’s not a difficult thing to do, I guess some guys just don’t think about it but I suggest you start to pay attention to things like this because it can really strengthen your relationship and keep everyone happy. Of course, this can be used when she is not sick or sad. I’m a big fan of rose pedals myself, I’m sure you can think up an appropriate way to apply that.
Here is a quick list of what you should really be looking for:
- Any statement that begins with “Aw, I wish…”
- Places she longs to go
- Smells that she enjoys
- Places she loves to eat
- Particular dishes or desserts she loves
- Favorite books
- Not for you to buy her, but to read yourself and talk to her about
- Hobbies
- Example: Piano – Get her some books or maybe learn a song to show her that you are interested in her interests
- Example: Tennis – Take lessons or learn without her knowing and then challenge her to a game, she’ll be pleasantly surprised you can keep up and will love to have you as a new partner
- Any sport… golf, bat mitten, water polo, ect.
- Where she shops
- Specific brand are good to know too
- Try to hone in on topics she talks about with her girlfriends and try to be familiar yourself, this will open a lot of doors, trust me
- Things that remind her of her childhood
- GOOD things… that remind her of her childhood
These are just a few examples, as you become more actively aware of these type of things you’ll do just fine. Just remember to not over do it. You don’t want to smother her, so be careful to give her plenty of space. Try to read her body language and see if she is exited to do extra things with you. If she doesn’t seem exited, don’t let it throw you off, she probably just enjoys doing these things on her own. All in all, this is very powerful stuff. So, good luck and have fun!
