Simply put, brush it off. I remember a poster from grade school; it read “You’ll always miss 100% of the shots that you don’t take.” Then couple that with some of the best advice ever given to me, which is, “success will only be found after countless failures.” Now you are on your way, not just with women, but in life. These mottos should be ingrained in your head because they will do you well in business and life. Let’s talk about how we’re going to approach this though.
So you’ve just been brutally shut down by a woman, sucks. What is going through your mind? You probably have a little self doubt? Maybe feeling a little depressed? If so, you are completely opposite of what a winner would be thinking. You should be thinking “damn, what was the matter with that girl.” Don’t see it as a problem with you because nine out of ten times it’s not you. Women will reject you because of things that are going on in their lives; it doesn’t usually have anything to do with you. You just have to go find a girl that is stable enough to have a relationship or is not already in one.
The mindset I have when meeting new women is that I am looking for someone that will compliment me (trait wise) and is compatible with my lifestyle. I realize now that that does two things. First, it is finding me a good woman, instead of just a woman that looks good (yes, there are women that both look good and are intelligent and great people, it is possible, you might have to shop though). Second, it puts me as the one that is choosing who I will be with, not them. I am the one that is judging and looking for what I want.
My friends witnessed a pretty hard shut down one time and gave me a hard time about it, joking around with me. I didn’t understand why at first because as soon as she did that I immediately was not interested in her anymore because I realized that is not the type of girl I wanted to date. But most men do not look for the qualities in women; they are looking at them from more of a sexual purpose. We need to break that habit if you are going to be successful with women and successful in life. I’m not saying not to be interested in attractive women, I’m just saying that if that attractive woman is going to be a bitch to you then it’s not really worth it.
Now for the moral of the story. Don’t be put down by being rejected, in most cases it is some internal issue with the woman, not you. You should be the one that is picking a mate, not the other way around and you probably should not be interested in some girl who gives out harsh shut downs. Shop for qualities that you like, she will pick up on the fact that you are shopping. Don’t judge just by appearance alone (unless you’re shooting for a one night stand), you can have the hottest girlfriend in the world and be completely miserable, so find someone one who is compatible and attractive.
P.S. A neat little trick is to keep the entire conversation somewhat jokingly. If you keep everything in a joking mood then throwing in little (keyword here is little) sexual comments then you are not likely to get shut down. If you do get shut down this way it will be much less harsh if harsh at all.
Good luck and have fun!
